Positivity Amid Suffering
Okay, let's tackle this elementary yet vague topic.
Lately, I've been a bit unsettled—contemplating my philosophy of happiness. If you’ve read my previous articles, you probably know I’m a happiness freak. I believe life can be filled with simple positivity, and that everyone can lead a joyful life without much suffering. I’ve always been good at making myself happy, regardless of circumstances. I used to believe that suffering was a choice—that pain might be unavoidable, but suffering depended on how you defined your surroundings. I firmly believed that nothing could bring me down unless I allowed it to.
But today, I stand on different ground.
Lately, I’ve found myself questioning my own philosophy of happiness and positivity. These recent days have taught me something important: pain and suffering are inseparable. They come as a pair. No matter how hard you try to separate suffering from pain, it’s futile. You can’t always control the negative feedback loop that forms—and if you try to strongarm the process, it will only backfire. The harder you push yourself toward a state of "no suffering," the more likely you are to fall into a deeper void than where you began.
The suffering intensifies. You begin to question everything—your beliefs, your identity, your purpose. Everything starts to lean toward nihilism.
So what's the solution?
You live with it.
Yes, it sounds simple. You’ve probably heard this before. But this is the truth I’ve come to accept. You must allow suffering to exist. Accept it as your companion—your new roommate in this chapter of life. Stop fighting it. Let nature take its course. Accept that you won’t be the same person you were before. You’ll change. You’ll grow. And no one—not even yourself—can undo the pain that led you here.
Pain and suffering are here to stay.
Maybe, just maybe, if you stop resisting and instead surrender to the entirety of the experience, you’ll find a certain stillness—a quiet satisfaction hidden within the chaos. And from there, you'll gradually begin to see the positive again. You'll notice the beauty in small things, and maybe you'll start to appreciate them in a way you never did before.
So my friends, don’t fight the suffering.
Let it run its course. Sit with it. Learn from it. And someday, you might just find that you’ve made peace with it. That you've befriended the pain, and in doing so, uncovered a new kind of positivity—one that exists even amid suffering.
For the positivity amid suffering.